How not to get her attention

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Look fellas I understand that Sexting was pretty popular when sending photos via text became revolutionary but let’s just leave it in the past and with the hormonal Tweens. This will NOT receive a response. This photo speaks: let’s fuck!! And I’m a women, sex is way to easy to come by, so another sleazy creep trying to get in our pants defiantly isn’t the route to get in them. Slow down. . . Can I at least get a hello before I see your pelvic bone?

Silly silly men.

-SM-

Quotes of the day March 25th

Loving your life is necessary. Sometimes it’s hard but once you recognize your unhappiness, lock it away from you head and heart, you’ll find your happiness. Especially when you just realized you haven’t been loving you, like you should. It jolts you into reality and you make an inventory of people and things around you. All of a sudden you are wiser, stronger, enthusiastic and genuinely happier. Some may counter you, but it’s because they are still stuck in a somber limbo, it’s hard to believe in positivity of others when you are unhappy. It’s too foreign to comprehend. I speak fluent enthusiasm for my future days!!!

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Good Hygiene, What’s so damn difficult?

 

 

This evening, I took an breath-taking shower after the gym.  I laid in bed with only a towel and absorbed the good smells that were emitting out of my pores and I was in such solace. This started a topic in my mind: Why do some people not value hygiene as much as I do?

Now I know there are some folks who can not control their chronic body odor problems. Such as individuals with Bromhidrosis, also known as bromidrosis or body odor, is a common phenomenon in postpubertal individuals. In rare cases, bromhidrosis may become pathologic if it is particularly overpowering or if the bromhidrosis significantly interferes with the lives of the affected individuals. Bromhidrosis is a chronic condition in which excessive odor, usually an unpleasant one, emanates from the skin. Bromhidrosis, determined largely by apocrine gland secretion, can substantially impair a person’s quality of life.

I will eliminate these folks. That is no laughing matter and must be beyond frustrating. But, I’m talking about those folks who just choose to wake up and leave the house without showering and thinks it’s fair that you affect my nostrils sanity with your foul ass pits. It’s selfish!!!

  • If you don’t brush your teeth the moment you wake up and you check the clock and it’s 1pm—> brush your damn teeth

  • If you can physically see plaque in your teeth—-> brush your damn teeth
  • If you can smell your private parts through clothing —-> wash your ass 

  • If I can see debris in your ears from a foot away—> I don’t even understand how you can hear, but I know you can read this—> buy an earwax removal kit, then just start over with cu-tips. 

Ear Wax Removal Kit KIT by Nasaline 1 of 2<——- $27.00 and I know you have the money because you sure don’t have a high water bill.

  • If you haven’t showered in 24 hours—> wash your ass, I don’t care if you haven’t done anything but lay in bed, you still sweat. 

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  • If you are dating and sexually active —> please be fair and wash your parts, no one wants to taste the gym floor between your legs. As AW says, if it smells like earring back I’m not putting my tongue in that.

  • Grown men, basketball shorts are not underwear and especially ones that you know you haven’t washed in a week.—> first your too grown to have drawstrings under your jeans. 

It isn’t that hard to wash, realize that if you smell yourself then others do too. Just be fair. . .

WASH UP FOLKS

 

You want to F*** me and be an A**hole, how does that work?

Hi Hater

Hi Hater (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Good day Guise and Eves,

I must say its a pretty decent day, the weather feels good in Houston, sounds like an oxymoron; Houston, Texas and Good weather how can this be in July. * according to Bloomberg;” ITS GLOBAL WARMING, STUPID!” *

ANYWHO. . .

Now EVES have you every dated a man or men dated a women, and My lovely gays have you ever had a partner, for any length of time, and noticed that he likes to criticize you often. Similar to a girl in grade school who was jealous of you. Not jealous of you cheating and other men, but of YOU, . I like examples I believe they make everything more transparent:

EX #1

He knows you come from a supportive family, but he tries to undermine the help that your family gives;from emotional to financial help; using words such as grow up, when are you going to stop relying on them. .  . —> is this due to the fact that you don’t have a safety net? Who doesn’t like a safety net in life, if they were lucky enough to have one?

EX#2
You discuss with him you workout regiment, instead of being supportive  or simply quiet, he criticizes you like he is a body builder as if he was  competing in Arnold Sports Festival ( Yes Arnold Schwarzenegger),  and tells you everything you’re doing is wrong, even though he  never saw you while working out. —-> Are you mad because you don’t have six-pack and I’m cute already so the more fit I am the more attention I gain?

Ex#3

He always, okay always is too strong, I like often. He often speaks to her in a patronizing factious manner, as if she is unintelligent, although you know that she is quite intelligent in many facets in life;  from daily life, crisis mode to “book-smart”. —->  is the because you know that she is clever but prefer for her not to feel clever, maybe you like her to rely on you, maybe you like her to feel subservient to you or subordinate. What caste do you belong to in this western culture? Oh yeah caste systems do not exist here. . . hmmmm

EX#4

Maybe he likes to tease you often, make fun of your insecurities, even call out things that you didn’t notice were abnormal. Make you feel not as attractive, but you know you are.  Anything from the way you speak, walk, stand, eat, sleep  dress. . . ANYTHING —> maybe he’s an ugly duck and knows he can’t do better than you

EX #4

Money, oh I hate this one, trying to control your money in the sense of telling what and when to buy, when you don’t live together, share accounts or have any financial bonds. —> is he broke? SIMPLY!!

Here are some signs of a Jealous man ( When i Say Jealous, I mean Jealous of you—> HATING

  • Tell you how to dress (because you dress well, he wants to make you more simple to match his hobo garb)
  • Be overly concerned about where you are going when socializing ( he just wants to be apart of the in crowd, too bad he doesn’t know how to dress)

  • Put you down and will do anything to make you feel inferior
  • Have a negative outlook and poor self-esteem/lack of confidence (obviously)
Maybe some of you have been lucky enough to avoid relationships with people of this nature, but unfortunately my girlfriends and I have not. It’s actually all quite comical.
P.S if i come off overly confident and into myself, it is because I AM. . .

Man on the verge of cheating (MOVC), what are the signs? I don’t know!

What inspired this topic. . .  Well, I was talking to a very close family member M.L.C (she will not allow me disclose her identity so I jumbled her initials). She told a story of a bizarre situation. . .  And now I will share her story with you. . .

M.L.C and a friend go out for a friday night drink, to a bar that they regularly frequent, she meet a cute guy , the chatted, he leaves,  she leaves. She goes to another bar, he texts her asking where she was, she tells him, he arrives. They flirt, chat, giggle over ridiculous banter, then he abruptly leaves.  He text her saying he had a great time but had to work early in the morning.

M.L.C couldn’t seem to find comfort with his answer, so the next day, boldly and securely she messaged him asking what happen, he honestly responded with a sorry-filled message telling her that he is married, a bad guy, did not want to lead her on and that his wife was out of town. She deletes his message and number. END OF STORY.

BUT OF COURSE I STARTED THINKING

It is a good thing that this man ended things before it even started and saved her from stress and possible heart-break but I call this a MAN-ON-THE-VERGE-OF-CHEATING (MOVC)

I assume this title can say “Woman-on-the-verge-of- cheating” (WOVC)

Google is my source for all answers, so here is what I found.

 A MOVC: “long story short, bored at work and with my marriage, make a okcupid profile, hot chick messages me, we text. . . i was going to meet her at a restaurant, but at the last-minute i decided against it. too risky i live in  small town, so going out in public would be dangerous i told her we should meet at a place an hour away so i wont recognize anyone. . .  basically i just want to bang and that’s it. i keep leading her on. . . im thinking i should just tell her the deal, that im married and if she is down, then lets do it”

 I would consider this man beyond the verge and just about a full-blown cheater, his opportunity just hasn’t arrived, he doesn’t care about the layers of deception that comes with this life style, it simply seems as if his only worry is being caught.

I found this article on the FLY GUY CHRONICLES,  they discuss the six signs of a WOVC:

1. She’s Turning 25 or 30 or 35 or . . .

Decade and half-decade birthdays trigger navel-gazing-figuratively, and perhaps literally. A woman asks herself, “What have I been doing for the past 5 years?”

2. She’s Been Promoted

Women like to have projects and goals. When she reaches a milestone-say, in her career—she may start to think, Now what? says Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D.

3. She’s Moving in with You

Yes, it was probably her idea. But now that you’re together 24-7 and sharing every detail of your lives, there’s not as great a need to keep the conversation flowing every minute.

4. She Thinks You’ve Cheated

Revenge affairs are common. Women have them in an attempt to restore self-esteem and feel desirable again.

5. She’s Not Getting Enough

Oxytocin, a hormone that plays a central role in our urge to bond, spikes to levels three to five times higher than usual just before orgasm. The hormone is more intense in females than in males, so women develop a stronger sense of bonding through sex.

6. She’s Ready to Bolt

She wants to dump you. Infidelity can break up couples, so she might cheat on purpose as an easy out

Signs of a MOVC according to the “EXPERTS” of Your Tango:

1. Hesitation. The fact that you’re hesitating about an obvious relationship that you’re in reveals that you’re uncertain about your current relationship and where you two stand.

2. Gawking. Staring or making eyes with someone who isn’t your partner

3. Sharing too much. Sharing too much information with the person you’re attracted

4. Side dating. Agreeing to meet anyone for a “quick lunch,” “a drink,”

5. The brush. Playful as it may seem, brushing against one another can excite both of you as your bodies begin to manifest latent desires

6. Touching. Touching one another sends certain signals to your brain.

 7. Lying. If you ever feel the need to start lying about what you and your friend are doing when you meet

8. Change in mood. If you’re suddenly happy, grumpy, absent-minded all the time or displaying any other noticeable change in behavior,

9. Change in appearance. If you begin to splurge on areas you didn’t before, such as a new haircut, lingerie, a gym membership

10. Drastic lifestyle changes.

Theses sign may be helpful, but I believe regardless if you are a man or a women, in your soul, you feel a sense of disconnect with your partner.  Many couples, I believe, ignore this inner tug and then find themselves “surprised” when they have been deceived.

let me know what you think. . .

 

 

15 things you should give up to be happy compliments of purpose fairy

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

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Cuddling, that gets uncomfortable. . .

CUDDLING

cud·dle
(kdl)

v. cud·dled, cud·dling, cud·dles

v.tr. To fondle in the arms; hug tenderly.

v.intr. To nestle; snuggle.

n. The act of cuddling; a hug or embrace.

You Guise and Eves know, when you are snuggling in bed with your boo-thang, and you all are just caressing each other, oh so happy to be with one another and then you fall asleep in each others arms. . . Cuddling is a critical human bonding activity, important for building trust, empathy and healthy relationships.

but then this is my problem,

I become really uncomfortable , I am wide awake, just like the girl above, twisting and turning , needing to crack my back, his sweaty ass palms are rubbing the same fucking spot for like an hour and now I am trying to slowly remove myself from his warm i.e sweety embrace.

I read about three things that can help with the uncomfort:

  • Utilize Comfortable Body Parts
  • Neutralize Uncomfortable Body Parts
  • Allow for Freedom of the Hands

See I feel really bad, a girlfriend and I always make comments like, “ugh im so ready to go home and cuddle with my man” and I really do, but really when the cuddling last for too long I need some space.

My GF MW says she can cuddling all night long, and if she wakes in the middle of the night she makes sure she pulls his arm and curls under him. But shes know for being “NEEDY” 🙂 (love you MW)

But I am so down for some cuddling tonight, just right up until I fall asleep. . .

What do you think?

WORLD AIDS DAY 2011

BORN FREE BY 2015

In 1987, a quilt created by The Names Project Foundation covered the National Mall in Washington, D.C., memorializing those we lost to AIDS. Today, we stand at the threshold of another defining milestone in this fight: by 2015, we should be able to provide treatment to the millions more who need it, drastically reduce new infections, and virtually end the transmission of HIV from mothers to their babies. 1.4 million HIV+ pregnant women need access to treatment – treatment that only costs about 40 cents a day.

It can be done. But we need your help to get there.

Join millions of existing ONE and (RED) supporters. Add your panel to the (2015)QUILT. Make a pledge to do more and a thank you gift will come your way. Our friends, THE KILLERS have once again recorded a Christmas song for us— their 6th song for the cause. Add your pledge to the (2015)QUILT and receive one of (THE KILLERS) RED Christmas songs for free.

The beginning of the end of AIDS starts with you.

AN HIV+ PREGNANT WOMEN CAN GIVE BIRTH TO AN HIV FREE BABY.

98% OF MOTHER-TO-CHILD HIV TRANSMISSION INCIDENTS ARE PREVENTABLE

YET, MORE THAN 1,000 BABIES ARE BORN EVERY DAY WITH HIV

AND HALF OF CHILDREN BORN WITH HIV WILL DIE BEFORE THEIR 2ND BIRTHDAY WITHOUT TREATMENT

SO WHAT WILL IT TAKE TO VIRTUALLY END THE TRANSMISSION OF HIV FROM MOTHERS TO THEIR BABIES BY 2015?

WE NEED TO GET 1.4 MILLION HIV+ PREGNANT WOMEN ON MEDICATION – MEDICATION THAT COSTS AROUND 40 CENTS A DAY

IT’S DOABLE.

THE BEGINNING OF THE END OF AIDS STARTS WITH YOU.

 

Attention Seeking Personality Disorders!!

I have a few friends well lets say associates who deeply seek attention.. So they throw digs and I ignore, and throw more digs and I continue to ignore, But guess what more digs are thrown and I will ALWAYS ignore, but I will write this blog. . . THE BLUE HIGHLIGHTED PHRASES ARE KEY

The need for attention

Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn’t need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. Daniel Goleman calls emotional maturity emotional intelligence, or EQ; he believes, and I agree, that EQ is a much better indicator of a person’s character and value than intelligence quotient, or IQ.

The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the center of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviors is telling you how emotionally immature they are.

Attention-seeking behavior is surprisingly common. Being the center of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.

Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviors, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves. An attention-seeker may exhibit several of the methods listed below.

Attention seeking methods

Attention seekers commonly exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. Or they may exploit their own suffering, or alleged suffering. In extreme forms, such as in Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, the attention-seeker will deliberately cause suffering to others as a means of gaining attention.

The sufferer:

this might include feigning or exaggerating illness, playing on an injury, or perhaps causing or inviting injury, in extreme cases going as far as losing a limb. Severe cases may meet the diagnostic criteria for Munchausen Syndrome (also know as Factitious Disorder). The illness or injury becomes a vehicle for gaining sympathy and thus attention. The attention-seeker excels in manipulating people through their emotions, especially that of guilt. It’s very difficult not to feel sorry for someone who relates a plausible tale of suffering in a sob story or “poor me” drama.

The savior:

in attention-seeking personality disorders like Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP, also known as Factitious Disorder By Proxy) the person, usually female, creates opportunities to be centre of attention by intentionally causing harm to others and then being their saviour, by saving their life, and by being such a caring, compassionate person. Few people realise the injury was deliberate. The MSBP mother or nurse may kill several babies before suspicions are aroused. When not in saviour mode, the saviour may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person or persons she is saving.

The rescuer:

particularly common in family situations, she’s the one who will dash in and “rescue” people whenever the moment is opportune – to herself, that is. She then gains gratification from basking in the glory of her humanitarian actions. She will prey on any person suffering misfortune, infirmity, illness, injury, or anyone who has a vulnerability. The act of rescue and thus the opportunities for gaining attention can be enhanced if others are excluded from the act of rescue; this helps create a dependency relationship between the rescuer and rescued which can be exploited for further acts of rescue (and attention) later. When not in rescue mode, the rescuer may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person she is rescuing.

The organizer:

she may present herself as the one in charge, the one organising everything, the one who is reliable and dependable, the one people can always turn to. However, the objective is not to help people (this is only a means to an end) but to always be the centre of attention.

The manipulator:

she may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions; although she may not harm people physically, she causes everyone to suffer emotional injury. Vulnerable family members are favourite targets. A common attention-seeking ploy is to claim she is being persecuted, victimised, excluded, isolated or ignored by another family member or group, perhaps insisting she is the target of a campaign of exclusion or harassment.

The mind-poisoner:

adept at poisoning peoples’ minds by manipulating their perceptions of others, especially against the current target.

The drama queen:

every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions. Everything is elevated to crisis proportions. Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be present.

The busy bee:

this individual is the busiest person in the world if her constant retelling of her life is to be believed. Everyday events which are regarded as normal by normal people take on epic proportions as everyone is invited to simultaneously admire and commiserate with this oh-so-busy person who never has a moment to herself, never has time to sit down, etc. She’s never too busy, though, to tell you how busy she is.

The feigner:

when called to account and outwitted, the person instinctively uses the denial – counterattack – feigning victimhood strategy to manipulate everyone present, especially bystanders and those in authority. The most effective method of feigning victimhood is to burst into tears, for most people’s instinct is to feel sorry for them, to put their arm round them or offer them a tissue. There’s little more plausible than real tears, although as actresses know, it’s possible to turn these on at will. Feigners are adept at using crocodile tears. From years of practice, attention-seekers often give an Oscar-winning performance in this respect. Feigning victimhood is a favourite tactic of bullies and harassers to evade accountability and sanction. When accused of bullying and harassment, the person immediately turns on the water works and claims they are the one being bullied or harassed – even though there’s been no prior mention of being bullied or harassed. It’s the fact that this claim appears only after and in response to having been called to account that is revealing. Mature adults do not burst into tears when held accountable for their actions.

The false confessor:

this person confesses to crimes they haven’t committed in order to gain attention from the police and the media. In some cases people have confessed to being serial killers, even though they cannot provide any substantive evidence of their crimes. Often they will confess to crimes which have just been reported in the media. Some individuals are know to the police as serial confessors. The false confessor is different from a person who make a false confession and admits to a crime of which they are accused because of emotional pressure and inappropriate interrogation tactics.

The abused:

a person claims they are the victim of abuse, sexual abuse, rape etc as a way of gaining attention for themselves. Crimes like abuse and rape are difficult to prove at the best of times and their incidence is so common that it is easy to make a plausible claim as a way of gaining attention.

The online victim:

this person uses Internet chat rooms and forums to allege that they’ve been the victim of rape, violence, harassment, abuse etc. The alleged crime is never reported to the authorities, for obvious reasons. The facelessness and anonymity of the Internet suits this type of attention seeker.

The victim:

she may intentionally create acts of harassment against herself, eg send herself hate mail or damage her own possessions in an attempt to incriminate a fellow employee, a family member, neighbour, etc. Scheming, cunning, devious, deceptive and manipulative, she will identify her “harasser” and produce circumstantial evidence in support of her claim. She will revel in the attention she gains and use her glib charm to plausibly dismiss any suggestion that she herself may be responsible. However, a background check may reveal that this is not the first time she has had this happen to her.

In many cases the attention-seeker is a serial bully whose behaviour contains many of the characteristics listed under the profile of a serial bully, especially the Attention-Seeker. The page on Narcissistic Personality Disorder may also be enlightening, as may be the page on bullies in the family.

Feigning victimhood is common to serial bullies and this aspect comes to the fore in most cases once the bully has been held accountable and he or she cannot escape or rely on their support network. The tactic of denial followed by immediate counterattack followed by feigning victimhood is described on the serial bully page.

Attention seeking and narcissism

Like most personality disorders, narcissism occurs to different degrees in different people and reveals itself in many ways. Many business leaders exhibit narcissism, although when present in excess, the short-term benefits are outweighed by long-term unsustainability which can, and often does, lead to disaster.