You want to F*** me and be an A**hole, how does that work?

Hi Hater

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Good day Guise and Eves,

I must say its a pretty decent day, the weather feels good in Houston, sounds like an oxymoron; Houston, Texas and Good weather how can this be in July. * according to Bloomberg;” ITS GLOBAL WARMING, STUPID!” *

ANYWHO. . .

Now EVES have you every dated a man or men dated a women, and My lovely gays have you ever had a partner, for any length of time, and noticed that he likes to criticize you often. Similar to a girl in grade school who was jealous of you. Not jealous of you cheating and other men, but of YOU, . I like examples I believe they make everything more transparent:

EX #1

He knows you come from a supportive family, but he tries to undermine the help that your family gives;from emotional to financial help; using words such as grow up, when are you going to stop relying on them. .  . —> is this due to the fact that you don’t have a safety net? Who doesn’t like a safety net in life, if they were lucky enough to have one?

EX#2
You discuss with him you workout regiment, instead of being supportive  or simply quiet, he criticizes you like he is a body builder as if he was  competing in Arnold Sports Festival ( Yes Arnold Schwarzenegger),  and tells you everything you’re doing is wrong, even though he  never saw you while working out. —-> Are you mad because you don’t have six-pack and I’m cute already so the more fit I am the more attention I gain?

Ex#3

He always, okay always is too strong, I like often. He often speaks to her in a patronizing factious manner, as if she is unintelligent, although you know that she is quite intelligent in many facets in life;  from daily life, crisis mode to “book-smart”. —->  is the because you know that she is clever but prefer for her not to feel clever, maybe you like her to rely on you, maybe you like her to feel subservient to you or subordinate. What caste do you belong to in this western culture? Oh yeah caste systems do not exist here. . . hmmmm

EX#4

Maybe he likes to tease you often, make fun of your insecurities, even call out things that you didn’t notice were abnormal. Make you feel not as attractive, but you know you are.  Anything from the way you speak, walk, stand, eat, sleep  dress. . . ANYTHING —> maybe he’s an ugly duck and knows he can’t do better than you

EX #4

Money, oh I hate this one, trying to control your money in the sense of telling what and when to buy, when you don’t live together, share accounts or have any financial bonds. —> is he broke? SIMPLY!!

Here are some signs of a Jealous man ( When i Say Jealous, I mean Jealous of you—> HATING

  • Tell you how to dress (because you dress well, he wants to make you more simple to match his hobo garb)
  • Be overly concerned about where you are going when socializing ( he just wants to be apart of the in crowd, too bad he doesn’t know how to dress)

  • Put you down and will do anything to make you feel inferior
  • Have a negative outlook and poor self-esteem/lack of confidence (obviously)
Maybe some of you have been lucky enough to avoid relationships with people of this nature, but unfortunately my girlfriends and I have not. It’s actually all quite comical.
P.S if i come off overly confident and into myself, it is because I AM. . .

The N word.

Tonight on CNN my old love Don Lemon (actually he will always have my heart, he is so cute), will have a special over the word NIGGER.  My new love Marc Lemont Hill, will add his clever expertise to the topic. I find it charming that CNN is having a special highlighting this topic.

 

I hate this term, I hate black people using it around non-blacks and even more I hate people who are not black using this term. No what I really hate, Black people letting non-blacks call them a nigger. I will admit, I have said this term in my angry sista girl tone, such as ” that trifling nigga”, yes I am, besides myself in those moments, but lets remember I AM BLACK. There are a few stipulations to my use of this term:

  •  alone in my car
  •  around my BLACK girlfriends
  •  never say it around friends nor strangers who do not share my ethnicity.
  • Never use in public

 

When I was teaching in the public school system, this word was used more often then bitch, fuck, ass, motherfucker and shit combined. The bigger issue than the students of all races using this term (“I’m a Asian Nigga”; one girl told me), are the adults who hear them us it and never reprimand them. I would hear a student say “Bitch Ass Nigga” and a teacher would yell at the student for saying bitch but never mention the Nigger part. At first, this shocked the hell out of me, but I noticed after a few months in that environment, I became numb to the word as well. I would always make it a point to say, “that word is never allowed in my classroom nor in my presence”; that was, as much influence as I could extend. The day I knew anything I said wouldn’t matter, was the day I watched a BLACK student laugh when I discussed the transatlantic slave trade and he said ” that’s when them niggas were stacked up like sardines”. At that moment, I knew that the children didn’t associate slavery nor the negative connotation that comes with Nigger to themselves.

I asked some black students, how they felt when their peers of different races said Nigger,

– “If I know them I don’t care”

– “everyone says nigga, its doesn’t matter”

– “Nigga and Nigger are different” —-> has this really become a legitimate answer?

I asked students who were not black how it made them feel to use or hear it

-“None of the black kids care if I use it”

– “Yeah I call myself a nigga”

That is a bit scary. I remember when I was in high school, graduated in 2004 not too long ago. When we (black kids) heard non-black kids say Nigga, there was a issue or a fight. There was always one or two white kids, who received the “down card”, but he or she still knew watch who you say it around.

Remember when Jennifer Lopez said Nigga in her song “I’m Real”, My friends and I, we were truly shocked and confused and we had four hour long convos about it. 

“Now people screamin’ what the deal with you and so and so
I tell them niggas, mind their biz, but they don’t hear me though”

 

NOW in 2013. . . well you know, everyone can say it as long as they sing it, has this become the exception.

 

I call BULLSHIT!! DONT USE THE WORD PERIOD.

 

Lets see what Don has for us. . .

 

p.s I love you DON and MARC