oooo yess oooo yesss oooo yess, nope I still didn’t have one!!!!

Orgasm Inc. - The Strange Science of Female Pl...

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Ladies ladies ladies. . .

Have you every had a partner who always thought that they were putting it on you but instead they were just laying on you. . . and these guys tend to be the ones with most sexual confidence!

“yeah baby, you had a orgasam right, I felt that”

“um. when. . . today? No”

“Are you sure, cause you were shaking”

“yeah, im sure, I was squirming for you to get off of me”

“ahh man, that’s weird, I mean I  always give you orgasms”

“who me?” Nah boo”

Men I think yall need a lil 101 on the female sexual organ ( and if you say “nah I got this”then you really need to read) so here we gooooo. . .

An orgasm isn’t that different from an electrical capacitor, building up arousal until a firing threshold is reached. Stop and she’ll return to her baseline — and you’ll start from scratch. Here’s how to create sparks every time.

 AROUSED

Sexual triggers, ( Kissing, Dancing, Money, Birkens, New Mercedes CL 550’s) unleash a cascade of physiological responses that begin to prepare her body for sex. Her body starts to lubricate the vaginal canal and inner labia. The brain orders the release of the chemical vasoactive intestinal peptide, which increases bloodflow to the pelvic area, swelling the inner and outer labia and causing her to feel sexual tension.

BODY UNWINDING

The parts of her brain that process fear and anxiety start to relax, and the uterus tips upward, making the vagina longer. (The process is called “tenting.”) The clitoris swells, as does the spongy tissue around the urethra, which is why some women feel as if they have to pee when aroused. Indirect touching of the clitoris will make her crave direct stimulation, adding fuel to her sexual-feedback loop. ( you can start oral at this point)

VITAL SIGNS INCREASE

As her heart rate and breathing speed up, pumping more blood to her extremities, the color of the labia deepens, and her clitoris — ultrasensitive at this point — extends, fully engorged, awaiting contact with your penis. Slow, steady stimulation that builds rhythmically will help coax her body toward the threshold to climax. The more anticipation she feels, the better she’ll respond. HINCE SLOWLY ( we dont need jack rabbits at this point)

NEARS HER THRESHOLD

The conscious part of her brain, drowning in neuro-transmitters, enters a trancelike state. Just prior to orgasm, the subconscious part — which also handles things like breathing and heartbeat — signals a vaginal nerve to start muscular contractions. You may feel the outer third of her vagina “grabbing” at your penis, but her arousal may fade and she will still revert to stage 1 if stimulation ceases or changes. ( So if you fuck up, start at oral again)

YES YES YES

The orgasmic stage: with rhythmic or sporadic contractions in the vagina, uterus, and anus — typically lasts 10 to 60 seconds. At this point, some women prefer more intense stimulation that matches their orgasmic response. The chemical oxytocin is released in the brain, promoting a feeling of closeness, according to some research — which could explain why she wants to cuddle after sex.

REST PERIOD

Unlike men, some women can have multiple orgasms without experiencing a refractory period after each one. Without stimulation, however, they will return to a base-line level of arousal. Contractions stop, the uterus lowers, and the clitoris goes back in its shell. Heart rate and breathing slow, and bloodflow returns to normal. The clitoris will probably be too sensitive for direct stimulation, but other parts of her body will be yearning for attention.

MORE TO COME FROM THIS TOPIC

Trying to hard to be cool!!

This will be a beyond unorthodox and unorganized post due to the fact that I’m a bit ummmm. . . Drunky, and I’m creating this posts via iPhone, while my laptop is literally beside me Bahaha! But I noticed a few things this evening via real world and FB( truly why was I even checking my fb at 2am, weird) but it really freaks me the fuck out why people, youngish people (25-32), try so fucking hard to be too-cool-for -schoool! phrases such as (I’m-an-ass-hole, So i say what I want) is fucking lame, if you are actually really rude you don’t néed to conviemce peole of your rudeness, that shit is just natural ( I know assholes and it’s obvious I.e my mother and father ). Like when did being an asshole become cool? It’s creepy!! Or like this whole pretentious popping bottles every night thing, like it’s stupid and if you really have money you know how to spend it wisely and popping cheap ass vodka like is not really broadcasting your wealth but broadcasting your poorness (trying to prove to other broke ass motherfuckers you have money) or non real wealth, i don’t want a man who can pop bottle but a man who wants to travel to Australia with me!! Fuck impressing these houstanians, impress your yourself with new cultures!! Ehhh!! LAME! I really wish that these people would get it! You know what the sad thing is , people who know what the Better life is or what it can be , get sucked into the lameassness and get lost! Anywho this is just Shameika venting in a unconvential way of guise&eves!!

Thank god I’m Caribbean (Grenadian) and raised by the biggest rude asses in the world who puts my ass in check as soon as i feel like my shit don’t stink

Peace and love bitches
*excuse my misspellings

Attention Seeking Personality Disorders!!

I have a few friends well lets say associates who deeply seek attention.. So they throw digs and I ignore, and throw more digs and I continue to ignore, But guess what more digs are thrown and I will ALWAYS ignore, but I will write this blog. . . THE BLUE HIGHLIGHTED PHRASES ARE KEY

The need for attention

Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn’t need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. Daniel Goleman calls emotional maturity emotional intelligence, or EQ; he believes, and I agree, that EQ is a much better indicator of a person’s character and value than intelligence quotient, or IQ.

The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the center of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviors is telling you how emotionally immature they are.

Attention-seeking behavior is surprisingly common. Being the center of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.

Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviors, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves. An attention-seeker may exhibit several of the methods listed below.

Attention seeking methods

Attention seekers commonly exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. Or they may exploit their own suffering, or alleged suffering. In extreme forms, such as in Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, the attention-seeker will deliberately cause suffering to others as a means of gaining attention.

The sufferer:

this might include feigning or exaggerating illness, playing on an injury, or perhaps causing or inviting injury, in extreme cases going as far as losing a limb. Severe cases may meet the diagnostic criteria for Munchausen Syndrome (also know as Factitious Disorder). The illness or injury becomes a vehicle for gaining sympathy and thus attention. The attention-seeker excels in manipulating people through their emotions, especially that of guilt. It’s very difficult not to feel sorry for someone who relates a plausible tale of suffering in a sob story or “poor me” drama.

The savior:

in attention-seeking personality disorders like Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP, also known as Factitious Disorder By Proxy) the person, usually female, creates opportunities to be centre of attention by intentionally causing harm to others and then being their saviour, by saving their life, and by being such a caring, compassionate person. Few people realise the injury was deliberate. The MSBP mother or nurse may kill several babies before suspicions are aroused. When not in saviour mode, the saviour may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person or persons she is saving.

The rescuer:

particularly common in family situations, she’s the one who will dash in and “rescue” people whenever the moment is opportune – to herself, that is. She then gains gratification from basking in the glory of her humanitarian actions. She will prey on any person suffering misfortune, infirmity, illness, injury, or anyone who has a vulnerability. The act of rescue and thus the opportunities for gaining attention can be enhanced if others are excluded from the act of rescue; this helps create a dependency relationship between the rescuer and rescued which can be exploited for further acts of rescue (and attention) later. When not in rescue mode, the rescuer may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person she is rescuing.

The organizer:

she may present herself as the one in charge, the one organising everything, the one who is reliable and dependable, the one people can always turn to. However, the objective is not to help people (this is only a means to an end) but to always be the centre of attention.

The manipulator:

she may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions; although she may not harm people physically, she causes everyone to suffer emotional injury. Vulnerable family members are favourite targets. A common attention-seeking ploy is to claim she is being persecuted, victimised, excluded, isolated or ignored by another family member or group, perhaps insisting she is the target of a campaign of exclusion or harassment.

The mind-poisoner:

adept at poisoning peoples’ minds by manipulating their perceptions of others, especially against the current target.

The drama queen:

every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions. Everything is elevated to crisis proportions. Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be present.

The busy bee:

this individual is the busiest person in the world if her constant retelling of her life is to be believed. Everyday events which are regarded as normal by normal people take on epic proportions as everyone is invited to simultaneously admire and commiserate with this oh-so-busy person who never has a moment to herself, never has time to sit down, etc. She’s never too busy, though, to tell you how busy she is.

The feigner:

when called to account and outwitted, the person instinctively uses the denial – counterattack – feigning victimhood strategy to manipulate everyone present, especially bystanders and those in authority. The most effective method of feigning victimhood is to burst into tears, for most people’s instinct is to feel sorry for them, to put their arm round them or offer them a tissue. There’s little more plausible than real tears, although as actresses know, it’s possible to turn these on at will. Feigners are adept at using crocodile tears. From years of practice, attention-seekers often give an Oscar-winning performance in this respect. Feigning victimhood is a favourite tactic of bullies and harassers to evade accountability and sanction. When accused of bullying and harassment, the person immediately turns on the water works and claims they are the one being bullied or harassed – even though there’s been no prior mention of being bullied or harassed. It’s the fact that this claim appears only after and in response to having been called to account that is revealing. Mature adults do not burst into tears when held accountable for their actions.

The false confessor:

this person confesses to crimes they haven’t committed in order to gain attention from the police and the media. In some cases people have confessed to being serial killers, even though they cannot provide any substantive evidence of their crimes. Often they will confess to crimes which have just been reported in the media. Some individuals are know to the police as serial confessors. The false confessor is different from a person who make a false confession and admits to a crime of which they are accused because of emotional pressure and inappropriate interrogation tactics.

The abused:

a person claims they are the victim of abuse, sexual abuse, rape etc as a way of gaining attention for themselves. Crimes like abuse and rape are difficult to prove at the best of times and their incidence is so common that it is easy to make a plausible claim as a way of gaining attention.

The online victim:

this person uses Internet chat rooms and forums to allege that they’ve been the victim of rape, violence, harassment, abuse etc. The alleged crime is never reported to the authorities, for obvious reasons. The facelessness and anonymity of the Internet suits this type of attention seeker.

The victim:

she may intentionally create acts of harassment against herself, eg send herself hate mail or damage her own possessions in an attempt to incriminate a fellow employee, a family member, neighbour, etc. Scheming, cunning, devious, deceptive and manipulative, she will identify her “harasser” and produce circumstantial evidence in support of her claim. She will revel in the attention she gains and use her glib charm to plausibly dismiss any suggestion that she herself may be responsible. However, a background check may reveal that this is not the first time she has had this happen to her.

In many cases the attention-seeker is a serial bully whose behaviour contains many of the characteristics listed under the profile of a serial bully, especially the Attention-Seeker. The page on Narcissistic Personality Disorder may also be enlightening, as may be the page on bullies in the family.

Feigning victimhood is common to serial bullies and this aspect comes to the fore in most cases once the bully has been held accountable and he or she cannot escape or rely on their support network. The tactic of denial followed by immediate counterattack followed by feigning victimhood is described on the serial bully page.

Attention seeking and narcissism

Like most personality disorders, narcissism occurs to different degrees in different people and reveals itself in many ways. Many business leaders exhibit narcissism, although when present in excess, the short-term benefits are outweighed by long-term unsustainability which can, and often does, lead to disaster.