So have any of you heard of (

This site is hilarious.

Their explanation: “Welcome to DDHG! We`re a powerful online resource for women and men seeking counsel and community about love, sex, dating, relationships and marriage. Our users, men and women alike, share their experiences with each other in hopes of helping others who are struggling with similar relationship problems. Our love experts offer a wealth of great advice whether your a savvy singleton or romantically involved in a relationship!

My explanation: Welcome to DDHG! A online resource for Women and Women ONLY seeking to put their ex’s on blast about the shit they put them through. Our users, Women and Women ONLY, share their life altering experiences with other WOMEN in order to keep their dog ass ex’s from finding love. Not as if those trifling ass men want love, oops DDHG went on a quick rant, back to our explanation. . .  Our love experts are angry women who are hurt and devastated and want to offer their advice which is to avoid relationships!!

Okay,Okay little harsh, Hell I have an account to this website and have commented on A page, but I have not made a page about a guise, YET!!

I will try to avoid making a page about a guise, it seems a little desperate to express your anger, but hey whatever floats your boat! If that’s how you want to express yourself go for it girl!!

I think all women should check this out when you meet a guise and GUISE check it out just in case you have a page!!!

P.S. I have a guise I was dating on this site, ugh so embarrassing, I guess he was so bad that many women commented on it !!

Crisis or Choice: Why are so many black women single? (via Kiss-N-Tell Chantell)

Claim #1: There are 1.8 million more African American women than black men. Claim #2: 42% of all African American women have never been married; that's double the number of white women who have never been to the altar. Claim #3: 70% of professional black women are single. If I hear any more of these "facts" uttered from the mouth of another news anchor I’m going to scream. First there was an AB … Read More

via Kiss-N-Tell Chantell

Cheating: What’s that?


I first have to ask: what is cheating?

At first glance, this question seems simple, but the “. . . frustrating truth is that there can never be an objective standard, because everyone defines it differently”.  I can go to a bar and a man will send me innuendo-laden messages, by the end of the night, I notice he becomes slightly uncomfortable, why? WELL, he’s married and realized that maybe he really wants to fuck me and not just flirt. “Just because someone’s vowed to be faithful doesn’t mean that vow is being upheld. Many married men like to flirt-boldly, publicly, and provocatively-as if to say, “I can chat you up and turn you on, maybe even fuck you, then go home and fuck my wife”. Could that be considered cheating? What about the more obvious forms of cheating, which include intercourse.  This also seems cut-and-dry at first glance, but for some it depends on ejaculations and emotions. If one does not cum then he does not consider himself a cheater and if she does not feel emotions for him, then she feels as though she did not cheat. What about guys, their girlfriend and the girlfriends-friend and the jealousy between the guy and the girlfriends-friend. I have noticed that men tend to be jealous of the friend and the time their girlfriend spends with her. Okay to make this a little less confusing I’ll use names. So Mike (boyfriend), Cara (Girlfriend), Hedda (Cara’s best friend). Mike notices that when all three of them go out, Cara pays more attention to Hedda and sometimes they flirt, dance on each other and maybe kiss. At first Mike finds it cute, but after a while he thinks maybe they really like each other and he begins to get jealous. Mike tells Cara,”I’m sorry, please keep the boundaries of your friendship neat and even”.  She ignores him because Hedda is her best friend.  Could this be considered cheating? “Almost every relationship rule exists to prevent jealousy. Yet the dirty little secret is that, like all emotions, jealousy doesn’t listen to reason. What our rational minds know to be a partner’s harmless flirtation often feels like an arrow aimed straight at our hearts. We might be jealous of exes, co-workers, or friends of our beloved; . . .  but the feelings are real. . . “.

Now that I discovered; I don’t know what the hell cheating entails, I would like to know why people cheat?

Why do people cheat?  I guess I can say that I have been a culprit in my past and I have felt guilty and at times not. I have been a victim of cheating, in my younger days and can say that every time I felt the same; betrayed, impaired and disrespected. Although, I have felt this emotion I have committed this same crime. So why would I treat someone else in that manner, when I know how it feels?  Luckily, in my more adult life (22+), I have not experienced either (hopefully not, TK), being a cheater or being cheated on. Don’t worry (TK), I was faithful to you. I do have friends that have experienced cheating; on both sides of the spectrum. I noticed that the pain I felt at my younger age, was a cake-walk compared to the way they feel. There is more  invested and probable futures the older ones becomes. When I was 18, all we were worried about was trying to find someone who would buy us beer or Everclear before we go to Dave and Busters (A real investment I’ll tell ya!)

I have asked around and this is one response :  He compared it to ice cream, vanilla is his shit and he loves it’s, most of the time that’s what he gets but sometimes he has gotta get that lime sorbet, Thanks (EW).

That’s it for now; this is only the tip of the iceberg on my convo about cheating. I’m just getting ya’ll a little wet.“Cheaters are so cliché, they want the cake and to eat PUSSY too!”

“If you know how to cheat, start now.”
– Earl Weaver

1 Rachel Kramer Bussel, “Our Cheating Hearts,” The Village Voice 30 Mar. 2005: 130

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Why do people linger in DEAD relationships?

I broke up, so lets celebrate

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What is a DEAD relationship?  Umm. . . maybe a relationship where you dread having sex with your partner ( this is probably for the EVES)!  You avoid hanging out with your significant other just so you won’t feel the pressure to get busy in the sheets, and when you actually find yourself in the mood, in the middle of sex you think “damn, why did I ever start this”?  A Dead relationship could also include continuous fighting about the dumbest shit. Like, your breath smells in the morning (um duh), or you’re not pumping the gas right (WHAT?).  You no longer kiss, hug, or even dap it up! You realize that you’re talking so much shit about your partner to your friends, that you friends are tired of hearing about it. So why stick it out, why not just end the relationship and find someone new?  Are you just too comfortable? I mean it’s so easy, you don’t have to shave your vagina because he has already seen the untamed jungle when he glanced at you in the shower or close the door when you’re dropping a log (because she has smelled your continuous farts throughout the night). It is just so much easier then dating, dating can be a drag!  I personally love dates, free drinks (hey hey hey! wait do I sound like an EVE). Breaking up is hard to do, if you are the “breaker-upper” you’re bound to feel bad for a while. Especially if you have been dating for many years and you do love (maybe not like) them.  I went tailgating about two weeks ago and I saw the biggest example of a relationship needing to end. So this Guise was a major asshole.  He has an live in girlfriend whom he hates, and it is so obvious.  He flirts with others girls; calling other girls his girlfriend, dancing around other women and saying that other women who are passing by are hot; all in front of her. The only reason he has not broken up with her is due to their living arrangement and their leasing agreement. If it is that bad, break you lease and split the cost.  They are both horrible, she ignores it because she comfortable and a little overweight, possible she’s scared she won’t find someone else (Okay I’m passing judgment, it’s wrong but it’s what I think) and he sticking through it because of a lease. In my book, she’s an EVE and he’s a GUISE.  I think we have all been in this situation, especially when you really did love and like that individual at one point.  I suggest that you back out before you hate each other!  HUGS AND KISSES BITCHES!!